The Sum of our Parts

Gestalt Gestalt (ɡəˈʃtælt) something such as a structure or experien- ce that, when considered as a whole , has qualities that are more than the total of all its parts : (Cambridge Dictionary) Take the word home. Its parts include a house or apartment, furniture, people, a cat and dog, etc. But to list the parts to an immigrant, say, when he asks for the word’s meaning would NOT do it justice: home is more than the sum of its parts. Home is a gestalt . And it’s a different gestalt for all of us because it’s shaped by the included parts. My home-gestalt has no cats in it; yours probably does. We may share the family-love part ... or not. Understanding gestalt is helpful in grasping both the joys and the heartbreaks to which relationships are subject. We sense this when we invent maxims like “Don’t judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.” There are very few people on earth whose shoes would fit you; nobody in the world share...